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How to succeed everyday

Updated: Apr 28, 2020


As I observe people around me and also my own clients, of course always control is the issue. The more control you want to take, the more stress that you will get, I say. I learned from my own experience too..

In psychology, of course it is true too. Control is about how you would want things or people to be. You wouldn’t be able to accept them if the things or people are not certain ways.

It is a hard way for anyone to live. Not only for yourself but also for anyone near you when you are ultra particular, right?

In other words, you would have much less stress when you are flexible or careless in a good way. I say easy going is a key to stress free and everyone knows the formula.

Harder element here is this high standard in your control can be based on social standards or any values that are not your own. Can I say that some of us decide whatever we have as happiness or not based on social standards rather than their own value?

It is like factory products out of their standard called failure or out of standard. It doesn’t matter how unique the product is because it is out of standard.

Some of us try to standarlize not only selves but also their friends and partners. There are a lot of right ways to do in friendships and partnerships in this society that we follow. It you are out of standard, you are not a good friend or partner for sure.

It almost looks like we are keepng us away from our own happiness while we are desparetely seeking for it. I feel sorry when I see people who keep them away from their own happiness and too busy to follow our standards.

I wish everyone can decide what their own happiness is in their lives. Then we wouldn’t have to rely on social standards or values.

A lot of people say a lot of things because of their own personal reasons. Anyone could decide and say to you that you are not happy then you may question yourself about your own happiness.

In this pattern, it is easy for anyone to miss their own happiness in front of us in our everyday life.

It would be wonderful if we could all decide what our happiness is even when we are so apart and different from our social standards.

However unfortunately, our trend is to move us apart from deciding our own happiness is.

In the universal level, we have full of information how we live or what to do everyday or even how we feel about our lives. So many instructions and inputs that we can’t avoid.

Buried in the information of examples and standards, we came to believe that obtaining everything we want would make us happy. Money, success or whatever called would make us happy, we tend to believe.

Only handful people obtain their own success in this world. and they sometimes realize that they are not still happy when they own everything they wanted. So called “success” wasn’t really a solution for them that they realized.

They speak out about it that so called “success” can’t make people happy anyway. However vast of majority in this world wouldn’t accept the idea because they are not succeeded yet.

We still believe that so called “success” would make us all happy or at least so called “success” would make him/her happy at the end.

In the “success” formula, in the process of achieving your goal, all the way to the success is climbing up the ladder from the bottom, which often times described as hardship or unhappiness.

Everyone dreams of paradise or better lives while they are biting on their cheeks and work hard everyday, walking towards “success”. I say unsatisfied lives up to success that we all have.

Because of the belief, no one tells me how lucky they are, I see everyday. I see some and those people are millionaires on TV and speaking out of their success stories. Otherwise those don’t exist in my everyday life.

And yet, those who can speak out of their success stories are blessed ones because a lot of successful people put themselves into difficult situation such as overdose of dru