How to Erase Toxic People — Take Back Your Emotional Remote 🎛️✨
- mitsuny
- Sep 25
- 3 min read
In the previous article, I explained that in order not to let “toxic people” hijack your attention, it’s important to first remember why you are here (your purpose of existence) and to understand how the brain works.This time, let’s take it one step further and dive into the question: “Who is holding the remote control of your emotions?”
1. Are you handing the remote to others?
One word from your boss ruins your whole day.Your family’s attitude throws you off.A comment on social media drags you down.
Sound familiar? But think about it—Aren’t you letting others hold the remote to your own mood?
What’s even scarier is when that remote works even when the person isn’t there.You come home, but in your head you keep replaying: “That awful person…”That’s exactly what it means to have handed over the real remote.
2. “Living my own life”… really?
We often hear people say, “I want to live my own life,” or “I want freedom.”But if your feelings are still being dictated by someone else’s words or behavior—is that really “your own life”?
Some may say, “But I can’t help it, it just gets to me.”The truth is—that’s just a habit.
No one actually makes you feel a certain way.It’s always:
“They said this, so I decided to feel this way.”
“They did that, so I chose to feel like this.”
The power of decision is always yours.
Of course, cruel words can hurt.But the degree of hurt has a range—and what determines that range is your mindset.
If you keep thinking, “I’m so angry! I’ve been hurt!” your brain (RAS) will keep looking for more reasons to feel angry or hurt.On the other hand, you can choose to declare:👉 “That’s how you think. But I choose to feel this way.”Taking back your emotional remote is always possible.
3. The moment you notice is your chance
The instant you realize, “Something feels off,” that’s your opportunity.The remote has never left your hand.
You are the one who chooses how to interpret words, where to direct your attention, and how to feel.
4. What does it mean to “erase” toxic people?
To “erase toxic people” does not mean erasing the person.It means reclaiming your own remote.
When you do, that person shifts from being “someone who disrupts me” to simply “background noise.”
✦ In Summary
If you give away your remote, your life becomes dependent on others.
“I can’t help but care” is nothing more than a habit.
The moment you notice “this isn’t right” is your chance to reclaim your emotions.
True freedom means holding your own remote.
Stop letting toxic people control you.Start living by choosing your own emotions.That is the true meaning of “living your own life.”
👉 Next time will be the final part of this series. Stay tuned!
Mitsu Emig | エミッグ美津
New York–based Certified Hypnotherapist & Coach
MSW, University of Michigan
Graduated Management Program, Harvard University (Radcliffe)
Offering sessions via Zoom or in-person in Manhattan.I support clients in transforming emotions and reality through subconscious reprogramming.
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