I was talking about my relationship that unexpectedly I became single in New York City and very easily found someone to see at my first attempt.
That is why I believe that things happen for reasons, divine timing or meant to happen in our lives. This kind of events just make me think of the universal laws the best.
I have many clients who believe they met their soulmates or soul connected counterparts and they all have difficult path to keep the relationships.
Difficult path, oh, yes. That is the whole point out of it, right? We are supposed to have difficult time when we have soul connection with someone to be with.
Because it should be learning experience and also karma to overcome, that’s why. If we can overcome our karma in other words, our own ego as humans, I say.
The point here is to pursue our soul connection and in the process, we have opportunities to understand true love.
I talked about it this week too that it is wonderful for us to feel wonderful when we love someone and want to be with the person.
However when we feel upset when we can’t be with the person or wants to control the partner’s doings or personality, it is called dependency.
Not dependency, not like “Sex and the City”, we are talking about true love and soul connection here.
In fact, when you have very strong soul connection, it is going to be an option if we want to be with the person in physical way or not.
Why not? We are already strongly connected in souls so physical togetherness shouldn’t be considered the only way in this connection and relationship.
However we believe in the connection even when we are not physically together, strongly believe in the soul togetherness, and overcome our own ego are actually karmic experience and we are supposed to overcome.
It is not surprising for us feeling very difficult to overcome our karma in our lives.
Some of us easily and already have life time karma so it is strange if we could overcome it in a few months, right?
Those are reasons why soul connections are very difficult for people to understand.
It is one of those assignments of karma that we can overcome the resistance from the society against the connections.
There are many standard relationship guidance in the world. In psychology and theory, we have to analyze and confirm the existence of love between us and the partners.
We have to see clear signs of love in our partners everyday and we have a lot of measurements and friends to say something against us.
However, we are the people who are in the relationships not them. You have to understand your counterpart and also your own relationship the best and something between you two, which is love.
However we get lost quickly. We tend to ask complete third person like our friends who barely know us and the relationship, what is happening between us even though we are supposed to know the best each other in the relationship.
In the sense, it may go to the wrong way but we can’t resist to ask the 3rd person because we are just so anxious.
Then probably the anxiety is one of those karma that we should overcome.
When we grow older, we tend to know what is important in relationships. Even though when we are younger, we just focus on getting married or follow the guide book to obtain a partner to live with.
Later of our lives, we tend to focus on more of connections, I believe and we don’t focus on much of matching values or same cultures.
In a way, we are more experienced so we can try out the upgraded level in relationships.
And it is overcoming karma too.
Some people say that they couldn’t resist each other even though in different values and cultures.
In a way, we have already some kind of connection when we are attracted each other.
It is unexplainable connection that people say. And a lot of people say that they can’t forget some ex-partner in their lives even though they were apart years.
I wrote a lot about my dating experience in my book, “Rules for Success-How to live happily” so take a look at Amazon! Click here.
Today, I want to write about something I didn’t write in my book.
Alas, my first relationship ended even though it was my first love for 20 years.
I honestly didn’t know what I was doing or being myself, and tried to follow some rules of New York City dating manuals too. I had no idea about soul connections at all.
Simply saying, we broke up because we couldn’t overcome our own karma in the end. I didn’t know what to do with the break-up though unexpectedly, I overcame it ok in short time of period.
I look back and I say because I was assigned to even harder or more important soul connection so I had to move on.
Like I said, there are multiple soul connections on us and some of them are stronger than the others.
Something very strange happened probably 18 months later of the break-up. The beginning of the story was that I was dating a man who had the same name as the first partner.
Strangely, the name was unfit to any of the guys’ ethnicity. Especially second guy’s birth name was different though he changed his name into the name as the same as the first guy before we met.
His birth name was a very typical one to his ethnicity though he changed it to something exotic for his origin for some purposes and he only used his new name.
It was like 4 years ago and at the time, I wasn’t thinking of my first partner at all then I happened to date the same name guy.
Looking back, I felt like it is a sort of reminder of the first person because of the strange incident happened to me.
I am going to talk about the strange event in tomorrow’s column.
Have a wonderful day!