I am updating my website everyday in this lockdown. I lately started writing in Japanese and translated it into English. However for some reasons, I am writing in English first today.
I still remember what it was like when I came to the US in August 1999. That means I have been here in the US for 21 years now.
I lived in Singapore for 2 years and in Michigan for 2 years but rest of time, I always stayed in New York area.
If you were born in the US and still live here, you would never know what it is like migrated to another country.
Earlier than 1999, I lived in Boston for one year. In the first marriage, my first husband got Fulbright scholarship and got a post doctor position in MIT. I was one of those MIT wives.
Anyway I never thought that I would come back to the US though I did and I never thought I would ever marry again though I did.
Life is unexpected and has to feel us wonderful in the way though we try to stick to our own expectations and get upset when things don’t come in the way exactly we planned.
The universe tries to teach us to let go of control, expectations and plans though it is hard for us to do it.
Technologies allow us depending on plans and give us most of control ever in human history.
If we feel we can’t control now, we wouldn’t have survived 100 years ago. Mortality rates were much higher and a lot of people lost their children in the era and loved ones.
The more we gain control over our lives, the more we try to control our lives. The direction is going against the universal laws for sure.
Actually when we start enjoying unexpected, we will be able to enjoy our lives better.
The more we are inflexible and can’t accept anything else but our plans, the unhappier we become for sure, don’t you think?
When we start a day from some unexpected incident or accident, those bad news can ruin our day.
It could be a tiny little thing like your partner was in bad mood and you had an argument and it upsets you.
If you can’t get out of the energy all day, everything else could bother you.
When you let go of the negative energy upsetting you as soon as possible, you can recover from it and have a pleasant day, it is possible.
I will talk about subconscious cues that you can use in daily life to let yourself recover whatever the situation today.
It is all about changing moods/energy or letting go of some negative energy. They are almost identical, I must say because we want to change our moods when the mood we are in is not good, not other way around.
Examine why you are upset, angry, sad, anxious, irritated. That is about it, right?
Some kind of small trigger was a cue for you to feel the way you feel. Something went wrong clearly or even you don’t know why you start feeling the way you feel.
However it is very likely that there was always triggers or cues. Here are reasons why.
Brain never forgets, that is a fact. We can’t recall everything in our conscious level though we have our memories stored in our brain in our whole life.
It’s science so in theory, we have all the memories without knowing that we have them all in our conscious level.
I will talk about it more in tomorrow’s column.
Have a wonderful day!!