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Have to feel special and privileged


As I was talking about, there are feelings being superior than others doing more makes us feel less than others and they are related. In psychology, we all want to feel special and privileged.

Being privileged and being treated exclusively feel us very special too. If we are obsessed with the feelings of being special, it would be tricky.

It could be illegal if you are treated exclusively in a way. For example, shop lifting is one of those exclusive feelings that we could feel because everyone pays though you wouldn’t pay.

No one wants to receive less than others or treated less than others. This feeling is related to the famous example of half glass of water too.

There is a half way water in a glass and some think that we still have a half though some think that we have only half.

Either we can feel that we have enough or not, and having enough situation will last or not.

I don’t have to tell you which way of thinking, feeling enough or not is positive.

It is like Seven Samurais of Akira Kurosawa. Farmers don’t claim how much or how enough they have to the others because then they will have to contribute more later.

Some people feel obligated contributing more when they are more capable or people believe so. That is why they under-claim their ability or capacity to the others.

We can see a lot more of it in survival situation.

However in our daily life, it would be wonderful if we can offer more or at least as much as we can offer without doing math of profit and loss in situations.

When we generously offer, we can actually do better in the world. Yes, of course. We don’t have to be sting