At my work, I talk to a lot of people and listen to what they have to say or what happened to their lives in details. Some people truly have extraordinary lives and they are really interesting. I love psychology at the first place so I feel so lucky being in the position to learn and also enjoy same time.
One of those common topics is about romantic relationships. Love is such agony and at the same time, it is the greatest joy of all too.
Some complain that there is no chance to meet a right person, some got broken heart, others have communication problems. Sometimes the agony gets to the point of thinking about death in fact.
It is hard for anyone to lose someone close to them in actual death though in the sense, break up has more complicated that the person is still well and alive, and sometimes we well know what they are doing day to day. However we can't meet the person in the situation.
In a way, it may be harder physically we could meet up though we are never be accepted by the person than actually lose someone in death.
I say, one of those hard feelings come from the situation as unaccepted or rejected by someone, someone who we care.
Some people are very picky and unforgiving so they can't accept negative aspects of the counterpart.
At the beginning, everything looks good on the person though once we start noticing something bad on the person, we can't dismiss the points.
Everyone makes mistakes though it is hard for anyone to be generously forgiving.
Forgiveness is one of those topics we often see in the religious aspect, such as sin, forgiveness and when we are not forgiven, we start seeing the category of punishment. It will be sticky in this direction.
It goes like this, not cared, not be liked, not interested, or finally not be loved. It is very tough to bear.
I always use the senses of "accept", "forgive" and also "truly care" in the sessions. Those are definition of love too.
I say that everyone has bad and good things in us. Not only that, but also even this world has good things and bad things.
It is fundamental on everything. That is why it is getting harder when we see only negative. For example, this world will look like bad if we focus on negatives.
Instead, this world will be a wonderful place when we focus on something positive. And I must say that there is no way out of this world. We are stuck to this world as long as we live.
If you want to feel comfortable in this world, of course you want to love this world. Simply saying, we have to love whatever when we can't cancel it, right?
If you don't love it but we have to stay there, it would be just pain. Isn't it right?
I can say the same about ourselves. We can't get out of ourselves. Like this world, we are stuck to ourselves as long as we live.
When we don't like ourselves, our life would be hard. Ourselves are unavoidable and we don't like him/her, how hard it would be?
24 hours a day, 7 days a week, no break at all, we are stuck to ourselves. Isn't it right?
That is why we should love ourselves. It sounds very reasonable for me, doesn't it? This world would be at least wonderful when we all love ourselves anyway.
Of course, first of all, there wouldn't be envy or jealousy. When we love ourselves, we wouldn't be jealous of others. Then we can be truly happy for others.
In the situation, what would happen is there would be even more blessing and happiness around us. Of course.
If I say according to the laws of attraction, positive energy would attract positive energy too. In the situation, of course abundance will come around us for sure. That is the principle of the law, isn't it?
Then we are going to have so much fun and positive in this world.
In fact, that is my goal too, the wonderful world! That is why one by one, I help people to love themselves in my practice, speech, or even with my own books.
Definitely you want to like someone or something that is absolutely unavoidable including this whole world. We'd better love ourselves and also this world for the reasons. Then everything must feel us pleasant and fun.
The goal is clear and how would I make it happen? Not only me but also all the therapists do one thing and that is to change the clients' perception.
In my practice, it is based on the science. Within the cutting edge science, the most powerful force within us, that is "subconscious".
As I always say, "subconscious" is a natural state that everyone has and it comes out when we are most relaxed in our body and mind.
It is a random occurrence too and very subtle so we don't even notice when we are using our own subconscious. However we can make the subconscious happen to us.
It can be induced and when it is induced, it is already called "hypnosis". That is why, hypnosis/subconscious is very subtle and gentle but nothing like described in TV shows or movies.
Everyone has the state of subconscious so we shouldn't be afraid of it. However subconscious is very powerful too.
In our subconscious, if it is induced or not, we are using our maximum ability of all in us. We would be using up to 95% of our brain even though we are using only around 5% of our brain in our "conscious" level.
"Conscious" means almost always when we are awake and we are using only around 5% of our brain, it is unbelievable but it is true in science.
In "subconscious", our brain operating speed would be 1,000,000 times faster than "conscious" too.
Everyone has it though it is unused, well, intentionally unused, that is "subconscious". That is why any therapy with using subconscious state has very special effects even though the state feels really natural and subtle.
The powerful mind unused in you, that is subconscious. We can use it today, well, on the very right purpose with an experienced professional, that is actually "hypnotherapy".