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How to live everyday


At my work, I talk to a lot of people and listen to what they have to say or what happened to their lives in details. Some people truly have extraordinary lives and they are really interesting. I love psychology at the first place so I feel so lucky being in the position to learn and also enjoy same time.

One of those common topics is about romantic relationships. Love is such agony and at the same time, it is the greatest joy of all too.

Some complain that there is no chance to meet a right person, some got broken heart, others have communication problems. Sometimes the agony gets to the point of thinking about death in fact.

It is hard for anyone to lose someone close to them in actual death though in the sense, break up has more complicated that the person is still well and alive, and sometimes we well know what they are doing day to day. However we can't meet the person in the situation.

In a way, it may be harder physically we could meet up though we are never be accepted by the person than actually lose someone in death.

I say, one of those hard feelings come from the situation as unaccepted or rejected by someone, someone who we care.

Some people are very picky and unforgiving so they can't accept negative aspects of the counterpart.

At the beginning, everything looks good on the person though once we start noticing something bad on the person, we can't dismiss the points.

Everyone makes mistakes though it is hard for anyone to be generously forgiving.

Forgiveness is one of those topics we often see in the religious aspect, such as sin, forgiveness and when we are not forgiven, we start seeing the category of punishment. It will be sticky in this direction.

It goes like this, not cared, not be liked, not interested, or finally not be loved. It is very tough to bear.

I always use the senses of "accept", "forgive" and also "truly care" in the sessions. Those are definition of love too.

I say that everyone has bad and good things in us. Not only that, but also even this world has good things and bad things.

It is fundamental on everything. That is why it is getting harder when we see only negative. For example, this world will look like bad if we focus on negatives.

Instead, this world will be a wonderful place when we focus on something positive. And I must say that there is no way out of this world. We are stuck to this world as long as we live.

If you want to feel comfortable in this world, of course you want to love this world. Simply saying, we have to love whatever when we can't cancel it, right?

If you don't love it but we have to stay there, it would be just pain. Isn't it right?

I can say the same about ourselves. We can't get out of ourselves. Like this world, we are stuck to ourselves as long as we live.

When we don't like ourselves, our life would be hard. Ourselves are unavoidable and we don't like him/her, how hard it would be?

24 hours a day, 7 days a week, no break at all, we are stuck to ourselves. Isn't it right?