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My divorce had to happen


I am writing this draft Sunday, the sunny day warming up to 73F in New York City. It felt so good today at a park in tank top first time in this summer. I saw more people than usual today in the park exercising in this lock down period.

I was reading CNN that a lot of flamingoes flew over to the city side in Mumbai in India. In timely manner, I noticed some bird in my backyard too.

I heard some kind of tapping sound repeatedly and I thought it might be a woodpecker. To be sure, I checked in Internet what kind of sound wood peckers make in pecking the trees. It was identical sound so I became sure that it was really a woodpecker in my backyard. It might have come to my yard lately because there is no so much noise from people any more or it has already came though I didn’t notice because I was just too busy to notice the noise in my backyard.

Anyway, the strange noise turned to be from a cute little bird so I was happy to know it. I haven’t seen the bird yet but I may want to take my vernaculars to check it out later. Today, I want to talk about why I use hypnosis in my practice rather than traditional psychotherapy method.

Some people feel very unusual about hypnotherapy that I know and they wonder why I came up with using hypnosis in my practice.

It is not mysterious or a mystery about the reasons why I use hypnosis because it is based on science and because of the basis, it is very effective after all.

Science basis fits my profile too that I am an MSW (Mater of Social Work) from University of Michigan and trained psychotherapist too. I wanted to be a psychotherapist and decided to earn a Master of Social Work to pursue my ambition. However I had to know the limitations of the traditional psychotherapy in my training and actual therapy sessions I performed.

Also personally I went to therapy to solve my personal issue in the past and actually it was also my motivation to be a therapist too. However I ended up with being underwhelmed with my career path then.

I wanted to be a good mother and I had no idea about my life mission or purpose so I wanted to know them too in the therapy sessions. Yes. I had no idea about why I was sent to this world or going on everyday. Thus I was trying to fulfill societal standards because I just wanted to be happy.

I thought I could be happy when I bought a house, when I got wealthy, or have children. I tried many things to just feel happy back in then.

Alas, I didn’t find answers in the search and gave up on it, then I ran into hypnotherapy. It is called “Divine Timing” that the universe gave me the best and only perfect timing to me in the sense and everything looks like natural to happen. I bet a lot of people have some experiences that things happened for reasons though they looked like co-incidence in life changing and transitional experiences.

In the universal laws/laws of attraction, nothing is co-incidence but everyting happens for reasons. So many of us feel like things happen for only reasons especially when we look back in the past. My fated incidents started with my own sister’s death. My ex-husband, then my husband suggested us to adopt her children. I had no idea what adoption would be like because it is not common in Japan, the origin of my country.

My sister passed in the last semester of our Master programs. And a few years later, this adoption came true.

The adoption changed us as a married couple. In the process, we had to deal with legal issues in-between Japan and US. It was so stressful in deed.

We ended up without US visa for our adopted children because of the differences of legal systems in the two countries, the US and Japan.

We decided to relocate ourselves to Singapore to live with the adopted children, then 13 years old son and 18 years old daughter. Including our own 17 months old twins in total of six family members. I myself had lost in my own life and just trying to catch up with others and social standards to feel safe and happy. Adding to it, I had to take care of adopted teenagers and my own babies at once.

It was surely one of those most challenging times in my life.

In the delicate timing, life changing event happened to me as other significant events happen to people in their own lives. It is the divine timing, isn’t it? It was surely challenging that my adopted son was expelled from a private middle school in Singapore and I was living first time in my life with two maids in the house hold with the whole crews.

I wrote about this life changing experiences and published it so my book is available in Amazon now. If you are interested, click here. The book is “Rules for Success-How to live happily” by One Peace Books. I had no idea about hypnosis though I decided to have hypnosis first time in my life when I couldn’t sleep because of my fear living on 28th floor in the small country.

I was afraid of heights and lived on 28th floor with a huge opening of dust shooter in the hallway when my twins were toddlers. I was just scared for my twins.

Up to the point, I knew the limitation of traditional psychotherapy both professionally and personally. And I knew that hypnosis was effective on phobias too.

I decided to go for hypnotherapy without any hesitation for the reasons and like I always say, I was blown away with the result and also how light I could feel in myself.

My hypnotherapist was a famous female master who was the same age as me so I felt easy to go back to the therapy after the first session. As she got to know that I was a therapist too and she recommended me to get an US certificate to practice in the US later.

I didn’t have a problem with the career path because I was amazed with the results on me and also I saw more incredible results through my own practice as a certified hypnotherapist. My life started changing rapidly and many experiences were meant to be and they were incredible too.

I was unemployed for 8 years up to the time and until 2020, I had published books in Japan and the US, I made radio live show appearances 12 times, public speech, and a certified hypnotherapist having a private practice in Manhattan, New York. In Singapore in the period, my marriage had significant changes too. Up to the point, I depended on my husband because I couldn’t even know what I was doing for myself.

However my own changes in myself started changing the dynamics in our relationship then. Our relationship had to change because of my significant changes in myself. I was always feeling like I was living in fog in the past however I started having incredible clarity in myself because of the hypnotherapy experiences.

I felt lighter and it made me realized how heavy I was feeling in my entire life up to the point. I felt much more lights and shines in me and bliss around me all the time as I had never experienced before the day.

I surely realized how wonderful I could feel because of healing means that all the heaviness was just psychological in my entire life up to the point. “Amazingly lighter” is a most common comment of my clients after the first session of hypnotherapy and I felt exactly amazingly lighter in my experience too. And I had to realize how heavy I was feeling up to the point.

In my case, I actually became physically lighter too. I lost around 60 pounds since I had hypnosis session. I lost weight because I consequently stopped over-eating because I lost a lot of my negativity in me because of hypnosis. I of course believe in energy. Energy is scientifically vibrations in our 40 trillion micro cells in each of us. Vibration is released from the cells and from our body because each cell vibrates when it is alive.

If it is vibrations, of course, there is tunes in it. Same types of vibrations attract each other. We say that we got same “vibes” when we get along, don’t we? It means literally we have the same types of vibrations so we attract each other. When your vibration/energy changes, it may affect on combinations or compatibility of relationships too. When your energy changes, probably your friendships and relationships change too.

You may not hang out with same people all the time when you and your life change, right? When you go through transitions, you may feel uncomfortable with some of people who don’t change with you.

Of course some friendships and relationships are timeless but sometimes changes affect on splits of people. My marriage was affected, I say. Of course it wasn’t just energy in-between us. However things always happen for reasons. We got separated soon after in Singapore. It was surely Divine Timing, I say. I had no job for 8 years and found my career path of my life, then independence was coming to me with a lot of meanings in it.

Divine Timing, it is because I could focus on my career, in other words, I had to focus on my career because I was going back to “single”. It wasn’t co-incidence of course if I think back. Some people could focus on their career as married but it depends. I feel like the timing was right for me to focus on my own career after 8 years of unemployment.

I believe Divine Timing anyway because of events and those timings in my life. Gradually I got to know my life mission (helping people feeling happy). Not only my therapy practice, but also publishing books, appearing on radio shows and speeches for the purpose. Once I got to know my life purpose, I started seeing all the consequences happened in my life in order to come to this place of getting focused on the mission.

The universe put me on the place, getting on the ball to focus on the mission, all the events including life changing ones happened because the mission is important.

All the things happened to me including my divorce to get me at this place where I am now. Nothing was waste so everything was necessary in the past. Everything was necessary in the past, that is why I say that I wouldn’t change anything in the past if I got a time machine. And that is a part of secret for us to live happily. Accepting all the past and on-going self at the place we exactly staying now. Then everything starts falling into right places and feels us very positive. Of course life events such as separation and divorce could be devastating and a lot of people can lose their hope and positivity in the turmoils. I felt that way when they hit me too. However now, I look back, all the things happened surely for reasons to bring out all the best of mine, in order to contribute the best to the world.

Because, of course, the existence who made this world must have had intention to make something good and making it even better. It must be a lot of work and intention to make the world so it is easy for us to think the basis was positive. No one takes so much efforts to make something bad, in simply saying.

Furthermore, it should intend it in the way that people (we) get awareness of important principles and purposes to get ourselves wiser and better.

The Master should intend all of the above can happen in this world with using series of incidences, however they look like co-incidences on the surface though.

Those incidences give each one of us awarenesses of goodness in ourselves and in this world and learning experiences to be more efficient on problem solving and positiveness.

There is no waste in this theory and it realizes us the enormous scale of the universe’s plan! It is so clear why hypnotherapy is much more effective than traditional psychotherapy. It is science. In our “Conscious”, we use only around 5% of our brain.

However there is “Subconscious” underneath of it, we can use up to 95% of our brain and our brain operating speed becomes 1,000,000 times faster than “Conscious”.

This is the final frontier for us to be better beings with using our super power of “Subconscious”. We make the “Subconscious” happens to us at the best timing with using a techniques of “Induction” too.

“Induction” takes only body and mind relaxation. “Subconscious” state invited with using the technique of “Induction” is already called “hypnosis”. Don’t you think it is unnatural at the first place that we are only using 5% of our brain at our “Conscious” (normal state)? Don’t you think that we should use more than that to make things better for all of us? Were we supposed to be doing it already?

Great ideas and enlightenment come from “Subconscious”. It is not co-incidence that I hear all the successful people meditate because meditation is very close to “Subconscious” state. The powerful “Subconscious” (hypnotized state) are the final frontier for us to utilize. In the “Subconscious”, we surely must get a lot of benefits from “Subconscious” when we review and consider a lot of our own issues in it or receiving some healing from it.

That is called hypnotherapy and this therapy is much more effective than “Conscious” therapies. What do you think? Can’t we regain our clarity and shine in us with using this frontier? We can surely change our lives. I am offering only Skype sessions at this lock down period in May 2020. I offer virtual spa services to give you relaxation experience without going to spa in reality! Have a wonderful day!!

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