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Parenting and self image

Updated: Aug 25, 2020


I have been talking about child up-bringing and self love since yesterday.

When you love yourself as a parent, you can easily love your child. In other words, it is not easy for you to love your child when you don’t love yourself.

The reasons were stated in the yesterday’s column so please read if you are interested.

Now I want to talk about day to day, how we can make our children happy or make them stay happy.

First of all, what kind of child is happy? Probably bright, outgoing, smart and in good mood? Sounds great, doesn’t it?

We can easily imagine how the happy child looks like though in reality, bright, outgoing, smart and in good mood, this child is truly happy or not?

Do you have anyone like the child or even an adult? Beautiful, outgoing, bright, smart and everyone adores him/her.

Then is he or she really happy or not? He/she may look completely happy though we never know.

Actually beautiful, bright and successful people are happy? A lot of them look happy though we sometimes have a chance to know otherwise.

As a matter of fact, I have those kinds of clients looking bright, beautiful, smart, outgoing and successful and talk about their own emotional issues or unhappy feelings.

I may mention it in the last column though it really doesn’t matter how admired the person is by others or how others decide who they are.

In others’ perception, they look beautiful, outgoing, bright and smart, but it doesn’t mean a thing when the person doesn’t believe that way.

Yes, he/she has to believe that they are bright, smart, beautiful and outgoing and oftentimes they don’t.

Whatever the brightness and shines you have on you, it is nothing when you don’t believe them.