I was talking about whatever those are, evil spirits, abusive domestic partner or back and forth relationships, it is only you can decide to leave them.
We understand a lot of complicated reasons exist for anyone to feel impossible to get rid of relationships and connections don’t even serve us well any more.
Not only the on-going issues but also attachment issues, karma or even inner child issues could be related.
I believe that it is very important for use to release negativity in us. To make positive stick to us, releasing negative is very important.
It is like a simple math so you feel like negative when the negativity in you is winning. And it feels more difficult for you to feel positive all the time.
Raising our positive or eliminating negative share the same goal though definitely eliminating negative works very effectively when the negative is a fair size.
Energy is vibrations, flows and “Chi” so we pay attention to flows that going to the right direction.
Releasing negative will correct the flow problem in very effective ways.
For example, you wouldn’t paint a rotten wall to make it beautiful. You have to scrape the surface or layers and layers of old paints.
Then the original raw wood will come out beautifully then clean the raw wood and apply the paint on the top.
If it is a bad wound, we have to cut it open and push bad infection out of it, then first time, the wound will be healed in true way.
Even in energy work, I believe that it is important to release the negative out of us.
True healing takes release of negativity. If we try to make positive stick to us without negativity release, it would be difficult for it to stick to us.
The energy may show unusual flow in it. I’d ask my clients how they got the energy and they told me some kind of energy work that they had.
In it, there was no negativity release and try to make the energy positive in the person.
Some people just don’t want to look at the negativity in them. Well, true healing takes facing the negativity and releasing it from yourself.
Whatever happened to us in the past, those made us in the persons who we are. To love ourselves in complete ways, we have to make a peace with our past too.
It would be hard to accept ourselves when we have something we can’t accept in us or in our past.
If we try to forget or ignore the past, your inner child will seek attention and care from you. The more we ignore it, the more it would bother us, it works in the way.
Good and bad in us, when we accept everything about ourselves, true self loving and self esteem will come to us.
I know that facing everything about ourselves is not easy at all. We may work it out sometimes without facing them though facing true ourselves is going to bring us true self loving at the end.
Energy attracts each other as we know. When we have negative energy, we may attract other negative energy too.
Not only attract other energy but also leaving or getting rid of the negative energy would be difficult when you have the reasons why in you, which is also negative energy.
I watched a movie of Tina Turner a while ago. She was physically abused by her ex-husband and everyone told her to leave him though she couldn’t.
It might be a feeling to feel her bad to leave someone, maybe feeling abandoning him. Maybe those feelings made her difficult to leave.
At the end, her ex-husband showed up at the dressing room at her concert before the show with a gun. He threatened her to kill her and he would kill himself too.
She told him that she was supposed to be scared of him or not. However a lot of people were waiting for her to sing for them so she would sing there.
She was scared of him to death in the past though at the end, she overcame. Her ex-husband left without hurting her and never come back in the story line.
It is very complicated in the marriage. Probably her ex-husband thought that he knew her that she would be scared of him forever because she was always scared of him.
In the long relationships including marriage, the couple has special dynamic and they must know strengths and weaknesses each other and also how to take advantage.
That is why it is hard for them to end the relationship peacefully. It takes a lot of bravery for us to make the decision sometimes
The reasons why we can’t leave even the toxic environments easily vary. Some say that it is attachment, some psychologists say that it is low self esteem because you let your partner treat you badly.
Whatever those are, leaving the accustomed places or getting rid of something attached to are not easy. That is why “Danshari” is not just cleaning and organization but it is very spiritual and also emotional too.
“Danshari” is originally Buddhism term to overcome attachment.
Energy attracts each other as I said. Your counterparts have the reasons why they are attached to you or taking advantage of you.
I watched the movie of Poltergeist. Evil spirits are attracted to a little girl’s energy, the lights that she had and desired her and actually took her from her family.
I believe that it is fiction though the logic is the same.
When we have compassion or pity on the evil spirits and can’t let the feelings go, the evil energy could be not only attracted to us but also decide to stay in us.
I will keep talking about the energy in tomorrow’s column.
Have a wonderful day!!