Too sensitive to love Part 2


This is the part 2 continuing from the previous column so I recommend you to read part 1 if you haven't read it yet. I spontaneously decided to split into two because it became too long.

In the Part 1, I talked about being super sensitive to love and detect tiny little amount of love and reacted to it is the best thing.

Because it saves a lot of energy and instantly be happy. Also in fact, love is actually necessity for us to survive too.

Happiness, love and success are always related each other. Almost all of us believe that "success" makes us happy.

In this case, "success" means being rich and famous in simply saying. Then we should remember why we want to succeed at the first place.

We want to take care of our parents or we want to impress our parents.

In psychology, it is well known that we, in some level, want our parents' approval and recognition of our goodness and they motivate us to succeed.

Some of us want to provide the best life to our children.

It seems like for parents or children on the surface though after all we all have some desire that others know our values and ability and especially we want most important people, who are our parents to know our goodness and values too.

Of course, some people only care about their parents' recognition even when they become very successful and famous in the sense.

Prove our own values and ability, in other words, we want others notice our own values, want get attention and respect from them too.

Yes, success is relating to love.

Attention and recognition, and love are the reasons for us to want our success.

If so, discovering a way to be sensitive to love seems a right approach rather than working so hard on success. It would be the best if we could detect and be reacted to tiny little amount of love too.

However the world is not working in the way. we all look for reasons why we don't feel happy outside us. Such as we don't have so much money, not famous, don't have something or even being single and etc.

We all believe that success will lead us happiness without problems. This is a strong belief in us.

Being rich and famous will bring us happiness, we tend to believe.

If we say it in a sentense, we say that money can't buy happiness. However majority of people look for reasons why we don't feel happy in whatever the conditions we have rather than looking into ourselves.

Probably because only a few people can get the kind of success with being rich and famous.

That is why, majority tends to find reasons why there in the condition of lacking money and fame.

It is easier for us to believe that success brings us happiness.

Main stream is to believe that gaining something tangible is a solution when they don't feel happy. It is always not us inward but outside for us to look at.

When you obtain some level of "success", you still may not feel happy. Then bigger success would be the solution.

We may believe that small success didn't bring us the happiness that we looked for.

Then we will have to keep pursuing success to feel happy because that is what we believe.

Finally one day only a few of us get "success" that we dreamed of then realize that money and fame wouldn't have brought us happiness anyway.

We may realize the rules for happiness when we got everything we ever wanted. The moment would give us deepest think of why we don't feel happy.

However the kind of huge "success" only comes to only a few of us. And some celebrities make comments that happiness wasn't about the success that they got.

I saw that Jim Carrey once said that everyone should be famous and successful then they will know that it wasn't answer in an interview.

Vast of majority is not successful like Jim Carrey so we naturally believe that being successful will bring us happiness so we keep pursuing our own success.

It is hard for us to understand when we don't have our own experience like Jim.

I have some experience too. When I was still married, of course, I had a husband, I lived in a penthouse in Singapore with two living in maids. With us we had 1 year old boy and girl twins that we ever wanted years and finally came to the world.

It was very small success in comparison with the world class one though it was a success, yes for sure for me. However that was when I started seriously thinking why I couldn't be satisfied with the situation I was in.

In timely manner, I had to go to my first hypnosis session for my acrophobia and the experience unexpectedly changed my life.

Literally, my life radically started changing since then.

In visible side, I was unemployed for 8 years up to then and now, I have a business in New York City, having live radio show experiences 12 times at New York radio stations and published my own books that I actually wrote in Japan and the US.

It is not because suddenly my ability developed. Ability and talents should have been in me from my birth.

We can gain knowledge and techniques though talents and ability are not, I believe.

We all have hidden talents and ability in us though they are just waiting in us until we actually recognize them and believe in them.

We have to recognize our talents and ability in order to fully use them.