In this week, I keep speaking about how to survive in this stressful life and how happy living can be accomplished here on this earth.
How? And one word here to present is “control”. It is all about control and how we can let go of control.
Control may mean too “controlling” though control issue covers our negative feelings when the plans don’t go in the ways we planned.
It is still control issue when we feel like why I am not successful, why I don’t have a partner, why I am in bad luck or such.
When you decided that you are in bad luck, you are in bad luck, yes, entirely. And you are blinded to anything good happening in your life.
Because you are focused on bad things in your life so you miss every good thing happening in your life.
Then a lot of people call the way of living as negative.
If you don’t pay attention to plans don’t go in your favor, well, at least on the surface, you still expect things go well in your life, a lot of people will call your way of living as positive.
And yet, bad tings and good things are decided by you depending on your conditions and situations.
For example, your partner left you, you feel the worst and that is the worst thing ever happens to your life that you decided.
However a few months later, you run into someone so special and felt so right about everything in your life including your earlier break-up.
Yes, you realize that you made a mistake that you decided the break-up as not only a bad thing but also worst thing ever. It was a big mistake on the decision.
Something like that happens to you everyday so we have to realize that we decide everything depending on our conditions or situations. It is you to decide what is happening to your life.
However whatever happens to you, there is always reason why and at the end, everything will turn out to be great.
I was having a conversation with my children the other day. Would we check on someone’s performance when we completely trust the person? The answer is no, of course.
Of course, when you trust someone, you wouldn’t check on the person at all. When you don’t trust the person, you would want to check on the person often.
The being who runs this world is the universe that we know even in quantum physics.
Do you trust the universe?
If you do, you wouldn’t complain or question about their performance on you. You don’t think even how bad luck you have in your life.
Living depending on our own conditions and situations is called ego centered. In fact, many religions ban ego in them.
It is ego when you want things go in your way, when you want things go on your plans.
How about trusting our own master, the universe. And the universe never punishes you. Punishment is the concept that humans invented.
When things don’t go in our ways, they are called learning experiences.
In Japanese, there is a word, “Send them a way in a journey when you truly love your child.”.
The more truly we love our child, the more truly we believe their potential in them, the harder journey and tests that we may give our children.
We know that we can’t give our children sweets everyday. Our ego as in the parents tells us to give what they want.
But we never do it when we truly love our children.
As same as it, your children will never learn how to get what they want when they are given everything they want in easy way.
That is why as a great parent, we try to let our children learn how to obtain what they want on their own.
The universe is our mother, father and master. The universe definitely wants us to be the best in humans and it is so natural for us to understand its feelings when we understand its intension.
I will talk about this more in tomorrow’s column.
Have a wonderful day!!