In yesterday’s column, I wrote that we are not wiser in our aging though we start avoiding risks and play conservative because of the mistakes we made in the past.
I believe that we tend to become conservative without so much challenging in our later part of life and getting wiser is a euphemism.
And we have scientific explanation for the tendency.
We remember negative experiences better than positive ones, our brain does. It is function that we have to avoid pain or ultimately death so this is defense mechanism.
Our mission as a creature is to maintain our own DNA and pass it onto the next generations. Some scientists say that our bodies are just rides for our own DNA.
For us, avoiding death is number 1 priority. And also avoid pains because they may lead us to death at the end. It is really a defense mechanism.
We remember bad things better than good things in our lives even when let me say that we have good and bad in equal amount.
Yes, because of it, in certain age, they say that a lot of bad things happened in their lives just because they remember bad things better
It is our nature and instinct. It is very unfortunate. I wish we could remember only good things going against our nature though then probably we would have a lot more risk of death.
Because we will be so optimistic and careless.
It is our nature to let us say that we had a lot of bad things in our lives. If you don’t say that after certain age, it is wonderful so I want to congratulate you!
According to the instinct, in aging, we would have negative energy more and more and it is science.
I can talk about something very personal as my dating experience.
I dated men from in their 20s to 70s since I have been single. The difference in-between the age ranges is the degree of their expectations for the dating experience.
In precise, younger guys seem to have higher expectations. They are relatively not experienced in relationships, I suppose so it means that they don’t have negative experiences in relationships.
The fact makes them have high expectations. For example, they expect to meet their future wife, or falling in love with a wonderful woman.
On the other hand, older guys don’t have so much expectations on relationships.
They may have divorced once or twice in their lives already so their expectations are low and they are actually afraid and avoid high expectation because it leads them to disappointment and disappointment hurts them.
Normally younger guys may not have financial resources much though they try and make investment from the first date.
Older guys take me to wonderful places though we can say that they just have resources at the end.
The impressions that I receive when I met them, I must say that younger people are much more positive than the other who seem to actually lower their expectation because they don’t want to be disappointed.