Hello !
It is true that even great Buddhism master, Shakyamuni had a moment of depression, interesting, isn’t it?
We are humans with a lot of complicated emotions so there should be some down time too.
I always use the example of sun and rain and of course, most of us love sunshine better than rain although I love sometimes gentle rain showers and sounds too.
Whatever the environment, good or bad, we get used to the usual environment so we want to be in the good one for sure.
As I mentioned, fixed value is hard to change. I believe that only subconscious power can change the perception.
When you feel strange without rainy days like in the yesterday’s column, you need to change your perception for sure.
Most of us feel wonderful under the sun though you feel wrong because it is not rain.
As same as it, perception and value absolutely decide what we deserve in our lives.
When you decide not deserving something wonderful, your are subconsciously driving yourself away from something wonderful.
Some people call the act, “block” and in the sense, you are the person who blocks yourself.
Block can stop you from further success because you already set the limitation of yours and how far you can go on your own.
Our values are known fixed around 10 years old in each individual. And after the age, it takes some work to change our perception.
To change the fixed perception, powerful brain power will be required although our brain is not at our best of ability in our “conscious” world.
“Conscious” is the state we are in while we are awake so basically almost all the time when we are awake and we are using around 5% of our brain.
Randomly everyday we have “subconscious” state and it make us use up to 95% of our brain and our brain operating speed will be 1,000,000 times faster than usual means “conscious” state.
“Subconscious” state comes to us when we are relaxed in the commuter train or highway driving.
We can make “subconscious” happen by a technique of “induction” whenever we love to have it.
When the “subconscious” state happens with the technique of “induction”, it is already called “hypnosis”.
That is why “hypnosis” is very subtle as natural state and feels like gentle and deep meditation.
As I mentioned, whatever happens everyday becomes usual.
In parenting, parents would love to show something should be usual for the children everyday.
It is like we running movies that we want the children to watch everyday.
As a parent, we are the repeating movie to show how we behave everyday or habitual mind set to our children.
What kind of behaviors and habitual mind set you are showing them as you are running the same movie everyday.
It is the best perhaps, we as parents showing that we believe deserving love.
When parents believe deserving love, it is easy for us to show abundance of love and positive inputs to the children.
We have to show the goodness everyday and we can’t cheat on the children pretending like we love ourselves.
The children will know a lot more than you can imagine when we live together.
When we love ourselves, of course we love our lives too. Whatever the life event happens looking negative or positive, we are supposed to look enjoying our lives in the case.
When we enjoy our lives, it gives the message of life is good and life is good should become usual for the children.
I know that more than some parents teach the children that life is hard.
Probably parents teach the way for the children’s sake though the children’s life becomes hard when the parents teach so.
For the parents, it is the truth that life is hard though is it right for parents to push their own negative values to the children?
Parents may be afraid of children get disappointed with having high expectation.
It might be a kindness of parents to the children though the life wouldn’t be positive or successful when we don’t have high expectation.
It is the best for us to have big dreams and expectation.
Seems like that the key to bring up happy children is for the parents to be happy people.
Looks like positive parents bring up positive children, doesn’t it?
We actually can’t tell the children to live positively. It is not convincing saying it to them when parents are negative. They don’t want to hear it either.
Parents want to show how to live everyday rather than orally preaching them.
Even in adults, you can’t tell someone else to trust you. The person wouldn’t trust you anyway.
When you know the person and they act like trustworthy, then he/she must trust you.
Parents live with the children and the little ones are much smarter than you think so they know the parents much better than you ever think of.
Tomorrow’s column is the last one in this week.
Have a wonderful day!!
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