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Grown-ups don’t get


Can you guess who my clients are coming to me for hypnotherapy? Are they very different from you all?

Some of them know that hypnotherapy is based on science for sure, some want to know about themselves in deeper levels, and some ran out of means to feel better with using traditional therapy performed in the conscious and looking for something new.

Some want to improve the productivity in any means at work or academic fields. In them, some of the parents bring their children to improve the academic performances in order for them to be accepted by great schools.

Simply saying, any of the above is quite possible in sessions of hypnotherapy and I am saying this as a trained psychotherapist and also a psychologist.

I was one of the psychotherapists who was frustrated with my clients’ improvement in the setting of me giving them therapy in the conscious levels.

We all know why scientifically regarding incredible effects from hypnotherapy with using subconscious power. We use our own brains 5% in our conscious and up to 95% in our subconscious. In the subconscious, our brain operating speed is 1,000,000 times faster than it in the conscious as a scientific fact.

The fact that successful people meditate and meditated state is close to the subconscious level. The more we meditate, the more chance we have random or intensional access to our subconscious that we can get daily basis for sure when we need our super power of subconscious to raise our productivity.

Yes, subconscious state is a very natural one visits us a few times a day randomly in our lives.

Subconscious state is randomly occurring state though we can get a lot of benefits from it. Of course, we have more chance to come up with great ideas and decisions to lead ourselves to success when we use our subconscious.

We surely want our subconscious mind on our side whenever we want whatever the purposes we have. Then we realize that random occurring is not a best option in the agenda.

We want to use subconscious state whenever we want as long as possible, yes? Then we need efforts to get onto the state and also stay in the state. It is called induction to begin with in the sense.

Induction takes only body and mind relaxation and the subconscious state that you get onto with induction process is called hypnotized state or hypnosis.

Yes, subconscious or hypnotized state is nothing but natural and usual state of ours and lets us use our own ability at our own maximum level for our own benefits. It is called hypnotherapy when we use it for self improvement purpose and also there is same type of element and effect in meditation too.

Is there any change in your values regarding hypnotherapy by this time reading through up to this point? I hope so. I am talking about learning something new and it is also about changing your values and perceptions in the process.

Hypnotherapy is to make use of your own maximum brain ability for your own success. It is true that all the answers are in you and ability to find out the truth of yours is also called potential discovery too.

One of your own values was tested today. Was it right value for you regarding hypnotherapy, prejudice or judgement?

Why the world we could only use 5% of our own brains in our usual state? Why do we have to carry a bigger size of brain if we always use only 5% of it?

As a creature, we should be giving our own best to survive in this world. Why do we use only 5% of our capacity?

We were surely given what we use and survive too. That means that we were meant to use our full capability from the beginning right?

Otherwise it doesn’t make sense. If we use only 5% all the time, 95% of our brain is there for nothing.

Yes, we were meant to use our own full potential. It makes sense all along, don’t you think?

That is another reason why hypnotherapy/subconscious therapy is given to us to reach our highest potential of ours to make this world a better place, I believe.

I also believe that I was given the mission to help people with using my highest ability to do good in this world.

I hope that your standards and perception changed up to this point today.

Whenever we receive new ideas, there is a chance for us to change our perception. However it is all up to us to make a change in us depending on our flexibility and judgements.

Also accepting new standard means that you let the old standards go. Normally younger people have less hard time to change themselves and we say that younger people are more flexible than older.

Playing the piano, skating or even studying. The younger, we absorb information better and no comparison with older people about this point.

As I mentioned, I help young students with their academic performances. Hypnotherapy is performed in the subconscious state so naturally your best would come out in the state.

Giving our own very best in our lives takes our own belief. To recognize your own belief to act on, subconscious power helps you too. How good you are and how much potential you have or there is limits in yourself or not. Those believes are in you to be recognized.

In your conscious level, within the 5% usage of your brain, none of those would be easy.

Young minds impress me. I only got information from books or people around me when I was in the age. However there is Internet now.

We can get a lot of information whatever you want in Internet. Enormous amount of information and flexible minds to absorb it. As I mentioned, young minds are flexible and capable to take anything in.

Laws of attraction and called as the universal laws is science now. Everyone smart and flexible enough can get to the information when they are looking for answers how this world is functioning.

I am not surprised at all when young minds understand new ideas better and practice it better than us and I am in the position to know it is happening already.

When I was much younger, “I can’t live without you.”, “You complete my life.” or something like that in a line was a romantic gesture or a proof how deep the love is for the person.

“I can’t lose you because I love you.” and “I can’t live without you.” How deeply someone occupies our minds could be a measurement how deep the love is towards the person even now.

“I want to give anything because I love you.” or “I can’t breathe when I just think of losing you.” Are those proves of love?

I believed those were proves of love in the past after I was almost brain washed as a child in the circumstance without knowing love at all.

However, it seems like emotional dependency for me now. It may sound too strong though when you can’t be emotional independent, it is emotional dependency.

No one completes your life at all rather than you. Only one person who completes your own life is yourself.

It suggests that your life wasn’t completed without the person? You need someone to complete your own life then it is looking like emotional dependency, yes.

In other saying, your life should be completed on your own first of all. It means that you should be fulfilled within yourself rather than having someone else.

When you are fulfilled with yourself already, it would be wonderful addition when someone special steps into your life and give you an amazing joy.

Being fulfilled everyday. It is not just about a partner nor your career, family, money, things and so on in your life including other people rather than your partner or family or even your pets that shouldn’t fulfill you at the first place.

Emotional fulfillment, it is called happiness too. Happiness is not about what you have or what you don’t have. Happiness is not brought to you because of the things or people in your life.

Happiness is about how you feel about what you have or what you don’t have.

Furthermore, it is you to decide if you are happy or not. It is not things or people in your life to decide it.

That is why it is true people who seem like owning everything are not actually happy.

They may look like owning everything or at least a lot or much more than you. However it is up to them to decide how much they have or it is enough for them or not. When they decide nothing is enough or good enough, that is true so there is no fulfillment in their lives.

We know the fact with example of “half glass of water”. It is up to us to decide how adequate the water is, right?

Some people try to fulfill their lives with things in buying. However constant buying never fulfill them in true way. When they repeat, it is called dependency.

Young minds can understand love and happiness much better than us because as I mentioned, they have information and resources and also flexible minds to understand.

Love is not about skin color or values that we have each other and they are looking for connections calling their souls. Some of them know following the soul connection is the way to get a real relationship.

Of course, soul connections wouldn’t have problems with skin colors and value differences. For souls, your bodies are just rides and surfaces. Appearance, how we look or even how we think doesn’t matter to soul connection, right?

However social standards tell us that the keys to successful marriage and relationships are having same skin colors, similar backgrounds or values.

When we try to see a big picture, challenges of skin color or value differences may be a test for us to pass and pursue the soul connections we have.

When you fall in love, a lot of reasons coming up to you to stop falling. They might be value differences, skin color or whatever. Following your own instinct comes around probably lowest priority options, I assume.

Not only yourself but also people around you try to stop you. They tell you to step away from the person because you are going to get hurt at the end.

Young minds are positive. They believe that they can overcome challenges while adults believe that young and stupids don’t understand the life, marriage, or relationships.

Adults say not to try, things are not easy, you are too optimistic, right? It looks like they are speaking from their own reflections and life experience mostly from their own failures.

In other words, adults decided that younger people can’t succeed so they should stand down speaking out of their own failures and negativity in their long and hard lives.

Even when you are grown-ups, don’t you have those people around you when you want to challenge? They tell you not to try because you are going to fail. Those negative people try to stop you based on their own failures and lessons they learned in their lives. The failures and pain already stopped them to challenge, I assume and they feel like they are wise and trying to give you some wisdom of theirs.

Yes, we speak for ourselves from our own experiences in the past. We decide what to do to our lives based on the values too. Sometimes we bud into someone else’s life, speaking to them based on their own past experiences. Your statements are reflections of your values, of course.

Do you remember how you felt falling in love? Amazingly wonderful roller coaster ride. You might have experienced terrible mood swings like in the range of hell and heaven daily basis if you were a teenager then.

Of course, as a teenager, your hormones were boosting and you can’t stabilize your emotions easily. And immature brain can’t control emotional outburst easily either like adults could do more easily.

It might be challenging in the kind of ups and downs, finding your own balance and emotional independence.

Well balanced would be ideal in-between madly falling in love and also emotional independence. Those are not always best friends, I say but it is healthy when we can balance them.

Because after all, it is wonderful to falling in love madly any time in our lives.

Falling in love might be just an extreme brain chemical though feeling amazing excitements, undeniable belief and fulfillments are actually the points of our lives.

Again, it is wrong if you feel like you are not completed alone.

Only healthy minds make the delicate balance possible.

I can help you if you want to obtain emotional independence and it is called a peace of mind too. Hypnotherapy makes me possible to help you!

Have a wonderful day!

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