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How to determine your happiness


In everyday life, I am trying to understand how to live happily and passing on some ideas to people. It is my life mission and job too.

As a matter of fact, I believe that this whole world wants to know how to live happily and pursuing happiness everyday too.

At the end, what we want in this world is only one thing and it is happiness, I believe. Happiness is relating to love and love would raise our vibration high.

Mainly over here, love is relating to self loving and self esteem.

We focus on different things, like proper parenting, going to school, studying, being kind and getting along with other, and etc. If we don’t, our parents get upset.

Why do we focus on those? We are supposed to do those? Then why?

For sure we know that we would get ourselves in trouble if we are not friendly or unkind to people. People wouldn’t like you then in whatever the community you belong to.

Why isn’t it good? Because we don’t like to be disliked? Well, probably, we would have harder time when we can’t get along in our community. That means that we may be apart from our own happiness, doesn’t it?

How about going to school and obtaining educations? Educations would give us proper social status overall and we believe that our higher social status would bring us happiness.

Studying too. In studying, we can get knowledge and we would have less chance to be recognized as an unwise person.

Being respected or considered as an important person, we believe that it would bring us happiness too.

We believe that education, charming personality, or knowledge would help us to be happy. That is why we are trying to get those in our lives.

Then I must tell you that we lost touch with the original purpose in our lives, to live happily in our chaotic society.

It has been looking easier for us to pursue educations, being liked by people, or knowledge instead so those became our interests in this modern society.

We never talk about our happiness though we talk about educations, what school you go to, studying, knowledge or personality. Because we care about those.

I’d understand that visible objects and subjects are easier targets to get. For example, what score in the exams, or how much money you have, because they show in numbers so those are so clear.

However how happy you are, for example, it is not too easy to describe and it is hard for the others to understand it either.

Again, something visible is easy to prove and understandable without so much of explanation though how great you feel in your situation without money or any kind of quantity may be challenging. It is much easier for anyone to show the others money, right?

And also feeling good with some kind of happenings or incidents may feel like happiness to some people. However any occurrences can’t make people happy in true ways. For example, winning lottery makes people happy. Maybe it is not true happiness.

I must say that we are feeling happy when the others approve us to be or recognized by them with some incidents or occurrences. However unfortunately happiness is not defined as an emotional state that we feel no matter what without any incidents or occurrences.

That means that we depend on the others’ perception and values to let them decide whether we are happy or not.

We have to look happy otherwise we feel lost. Or we have to look happy because we don’t want others to believe that we are miserable.

This kind of definition of happiness feels like a main stream, I must say in this society.