Laws of regrets and blames


Have you ever thought of ways to improve your life or how, or anything wrong to do with yourself in your daily life?

If you have, this column may be able to help you today.

Challenges never stop coming to you in your life. It is a life contains full of joys but also challenges.

How old you are as a child or not, the situation is the same. As we grow up, we start understanding dilemma, conflicts, or frictions in between people or situations.

Yes, again, that is the life about. If you see people who have no challenge in their lives, probably it is misunderstanding or misconception about the person.

However you have to be aware that they are many people who seem like having no challenge. I get the comments and impressions from others too. Some people say that I seem to have no challenge or no problem in my life although it is quite opposite in the real situation here.

I must say that as many times as I stated, it is up to you if you take the challenges in your life as negative or rather as positive because you can learn a great deal.

Probably, overall, challenges are given to everyone evenly even though it seems like some people have more challenges than others for sure.

I feel like I may have out of standard life like, I was born in a very small town in Japan though ended up with living in New York City with my brand new family that I built and running a business on my own.

Adding to those, it is amazing for me to have published books in Japan and the US.

After sudden death of my sister, my ex-husband and I adopted her children as teenagers and I ended up with being a mother of 4 children including my own twins.

I feel like that my life is out of standard because of those events happened to me in my life.

Of course, I can’t disclose everything about my life though there is tendency that something extra ordinary happens to me in my life for sure.

The out of ordinary life of mine shows in my natal astrology charts or any other charts, I say. In astrology, I got “Grand Cross” in my natal chart that is extra ordinary with a lot of challenges in the life.

In Japanese fortune telling, I found that my chart was out of ordinary so as numerology. I was told that I got master numbers in my natal numbers by people who are into the numerology.

Hey, I didn’t ask for it but astrology, the Japanese fortune telling or numerology are calculated based on my birthday so it is not surprising for them to have the same type of results in my charts.

Birthday is the day we came out to this world so it should be special science and also spirituality wise.

Of course, it is not always just about birthday deciding our lives. My twins show differences in many ways each other even though they share the same birthdays each other.

Anyway, there are lives with many extra ordinary events and I see many of them in my personal life and also professional life in my clients too.

Challenges are in any life and I believe that it is lives are about. However please don’t forget we can’t even describe how joyful the lives are, yes!

In simple ways to say that the creator of this world would have never put us into “only” misery and suffering when it invited us to this world.

The creator must have put us in learning how to live lives with joys and achievements amongst all of the challenges we have in our lives. Focusing on positives amongst negatives, that is the creator wanted us to learn, I believe.

And the logic makes sense much better. Finding joys and holding on them tight in our lives along with the challenges, that is the way to live your life happily.

I totally go along with the creator’s intention and believe in the way to live happily too. So I wrote books about it and also my therapy practice is about living happily too.

My books are published in Japan and the US now and they are available in Amazon. In US Amazon, you can search me with Mitsu Emig and in Japanese of course, you can search me with my name in Japanese characters.

Whichever the book you get and have a chance to come to New York City, please contact me and drop by because I will happy to sign on the book!

Today, I want to tell you the taste of my believes here, how to accomplish the way to live happily that the creator of this world, the Universe and also I recommend here.

  1. Don’t blame anyone else

All the events happen to you in your life were necessity. As I mentioned, the creator, the Universe wouldn’t have put you through whatever the events for waste and only making you suffer. Isn’t it true?

If you feel like any challenge in your life was just waste, you may misunderstand the meanings of the events. Because the Universe should have given you a chance to learn.

That is why if you cry without learning, saying to yourself, “why did this happen to me?” or “I don’t like it.”, you are understood that you didn’t learn anything in the challenge. Then you may receive the same type of challenge again, and again and again….

Of course, it is like a video game so you are not going to the next stage when you are not mastered the current stage.

As I mentioned, everything happened to you was needed for you. Those are your own learning experiences so if you don’t understand the lesson, you may have the same topic again.

When you blame on someone else on the occasions, it means that you are wasting your own precious learning experience opportunity .

Because blaming someone else doesn’t lead you to take your own responsibility. Of course, you are not taking the responsibility when it is not your fault but someone else’s.

For example, some of us to make excuses, such as we can’t be successful because of the uneducated parents of ours, you are from remote area in a country side, or someone ruined your life.

A lot of things happen to us in our lives and sometimes things seem like beyond our capacity to handle.

The harder for us to handle the situation, the more we want to blame on someone else. Of course, then we don’t have to fix the situation but the person will have to fix.

When we blame on someone else, we wouldn’t have an initiative to fix the problem. We’d rather count on the trouble-maker to fix the problem right?

Some of us keep blaming someone else in our lives to the end of the lives. For example, the divorce ruined their life, became poor because of it, happiness was taken away from them and etc.

The blame could be accelerated when the counter-part wanted the divorce, or someone else deceived you or etc. Then we got great reasons why we don’t have to fix the problem, which leads us to be a better person because we took the learning experience well.

Blaming someone else cause not only missing the opportunity of learning, but also, hatred could be created when you blame on someone else.

Hating someone is definitely negative feelings. It would affect your life negatively when you blame someone and hate the person in your life.

If you take a moment to check yourself if you have the negative feelings along hatred in you. What do you say?

Sometimes, long standing hatred becomes to feel usual for you and some of the people depend on the feelings to go on. When the situation lifts the person being hated, they wouldn’t know what to do.

It is like a TV show that hating someone and depending on the feelings of hurting the person one day. It seems like a common drama show around us and it is our favorite to see the revenge.

However I must say that hatred and revenge are negative energy in you when you keep them. Carrying negative feelings including hatred will hurt you and also people who you love or who love you at the end.

If you want to avoid someone else gets hurt in the same way as you did, it is positive though living with a dream of the revenge and counting on the relief with the revenge one day is not healthy either.

I hope that you relief yourself from this negative energies as soon as possible if you have it.

2. Don’t regret

I have to tell you that regrets are one of those wasteful feelings. Regrets are we wish something already happened in the past never happened and wishing we never done something we have done.