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Narrative change in subconscious


I felt that Pisces full moon on the September 14th was very powerful.  In New York, this full moon happened at 12:35am on the 14th.  However, in other regions, it happened on the 13th because of the time difference.  

Friday the 13th of full moon and also the next Friday the 13th of full moon will occur in 2049 that I read so it was rare full moon, I say.

This Pisces full moon had effects on people to show their own emotions came out because of Pisces traits of feeling emotional. Amongst my clients, there was such impact on them for some of them who normally are not emotional.

Not only my clients but also people around me who are normally cool in their emotions came out much more emotional than usual.  They seemed to accept their own emotions came out unusually too.  

It is good for us to be honest with our own feelings and we are such emotional beings in comparison with other animals.  Because we have such high intelligence so our emotions are rather more complicated too. 

When we hide our own emotions, we feel uncomfortable regardless the feelings are positive or negative. Normally we feel more difficult to suppress the negative feelings in us.

However of course some people feel much easier to express negative feelings in them.  We see in regular basis those complainers around us.  

Emotional purge is such important for our emotional health.  It works the same as our body function that we keep some negatives in us rather than purging out is unhealthy.  awkwardly saying that we may need in the sense laxative once in a while.  

Of course the feelings we want to purge out are rather negative. Positive feelings are not the ones pile up heavily on the bottom of us.

Negative feelings and also unwanted feelings or energy and also any feelings and energy are not serving you well in you should be purged.  It would be inconvenient when you keep something unnecessary in you, I say.  

It is like hoarding.  When we keep un-serving feelings or energy in us, they actually grow working against us.  For example, we keep particular negative feelings in us and they are occasionally triggered by some events.  

When the negative feelings are triggered, we can be exploded.  For example, “anger”.  We can usually keep our cool though it could be triggered to explode by some small incidents or big ones.  Then there is an explosion.  

At the ground zero, there is yelling or anything worse.  Those behaviors wouldn’t happen coincidently.  It happens when same type of emotional triggers happen to us again and again. 

That is why the trigger is not only the reason why the explosion happens.  Because of the piled up negative feelings and energy in us, we explode.  In other words, anger from the past is the reason why we are triggered.  

Those are the feelings normally we can’t forget, mostly of course negative ones. Fragments of negative feelings or a chunk of negative feelings, it doesn’t matter. We explode worse and worse in our life in the repetition.

Not only the anger but also sadness or depression. When those pile up and explode, they could trigger something like self harm or suicide too.

Even though it is important for us to take care of ourselves carefully, we still tend to overlook the signs of negative feelings in our lives.  We may keep going for denial until one day we can’t overlook the negative force in us and decide to do something radical like going to therapy.

We should all understand how important for us to take care of ourselves and emotional purge is necessary process for us to go through too.

There are ways to process this purge though in traditional psychotherapy, we try to purge in the state of “conscious”.

In therapy, we, therapists help the clients change their perception. We can’t change what happened to them in the past or even present situations. However we can surely help them change how they feel about their past, present and even future situations.

For example, we all live in the same world.  Some of us live close by in the same region too.  Among us, some of us say that the region is good and at the same time some of us say that the region is bad.  Even we share to live in the same world but some say that the world is good and some say otherwise.  

However we surely live in the same world.

Why?  Because we have different values and perception so this same world looks like different from each other depends on our different perceptions and values.  

This is perception difference and change that we are talking about here.  When you change your perception and values, your entire world will change including your past, present and even your future outlook too.  

In different way of saying, there is a fact of what happened in our life.  However what the incident or past itself means to us is entirely up to us and our perception.  What your past means to you or what your past was to you.  There are narratives to describe what happened in our past.  

For example, if you have same visual or photo with different narratives each other.  Then the same exact scene could look completely different from each other.  Narrative can change the entire definition of the scenes so as your own past events too.  

Another example is such divorce. Divorce is defined as negative in the society. I don’t see many people to see divorce as positive. However I say that my divorce was one of the best things happened to my life.

My own narrative to my own divorce is positive like one of the best things happened to me. I have more than several reasons to say so though I wouldn’t mention the details here.

This kind of positive narrative change can’t happen when we don’t get over the event.  For example, it would be very difficult to change the narrative to the positive ones when you have some shameful feelings and values around divorce.  

Also there are people got hurt in divorce. Family members and friends. When you have strong sense of guilt, which is negative feelings, it is going to be hard to get over it too.

Yes, positive narrative change must happen when we take care of all negativity around us and overcome them all. 

I wish we can all become positive when we tell ourselves repeatedly in the mirror everyday that we are good and worthy.  I wish we could overcome a divorce by just talking to ourselves that we can overcome.  

If you could do it, you are very lucky so congratulations!

However if you can’t fall in love ever since divorce or so many years later, you might haven’t overcome it in true way.

You may be avoiding getting hurt again in relationships because of the divorce that hurt you so much. 

Yes, in traditional therapy, we try to do this narrative change in the state of “conscious”.

However in our “conscious”, we use only around 5% of our brain.  “Conscious” is our normal state though that is why we can’t believe that we are truly worthy even when we try to convince ourselves in “conscious” therapy.  It is hard for us to believe that Mr. Right would appear in our life some day in the future too.  

On the other hand, in “subconscious”, we use up to 95% of our brain and our brain operating speed will be 1,000,000 times faster than “conscious”/usual state.  

“Subconscious” is very powerful in such way though it is a natural state too. In our everyday life, we are naturally using “subconscious” a few times a day without knowing it is happening to us.

Probably, we are using “subconscious” when we can come up with a great idea on our own.  

“Hypnotized” state is very similar to natural “subconscious” state.  Difference here is either we can make this natural state of “subconscious” happen to us with using so called induction of hypnosis or not.

Induction takes only body and mind relaxation and as mentioned hypnotized state is almost same as the “subconscious” state randomly and naturally happens to you.  Either we wait for it naturally happens to us or we can make it happen to us, that is the difference. 

Anyone can use “subconscious” state when there is body and mind relaxation.  When you are relaxed deeply in your body and mind, the “subconscious” will come to you.  

Of course, we are talking about average brain function here.  When your brain function is out of ordinary with such as autism or mental retardation, your brain is in a condition of difficulty to relax so it’s normally so challenging to use “subconscious” state.  

In other way of saying, it is not difficult at all for us with standard brain to use “subconscious” state and yet, the state is so powerful.  

In the “subconscious” state, narrative change is not difficult at all.  Of course because the recipient’s brain is amazing, that is why.  

Just speaking and listening in “subconscious” can change our life.  It is very different from talking to yourself again and again how worthy you are in your “conscious” state.  

Narrative change in true way and also negative emotion purge are quite possible and they will change your life!

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Have a wonderful day!!

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