“Not again” will bring you that again


It was winter solcitice on the 21st in this year. We passed the shortest day of the year so days are getting longer and longer everyday now.

On 26th, it is a new moon, which means a “beginning” in astrology and universal laws. It begins on new moon and ends on full moon in energy cycles.

This new moon happens in Capricorn so this energy is like devilish magic that people say. Devilish energy is of course, toxic or addiction, anything unhealthy in the sense.

Such as codependency, something you don’t need any more though it is always there. We, Japanese say that it is “Danshari” timing to get rid of the clutter.

We all know about codependency well. There is mutual benefit though the relationships is unhealthy.

It is nothing so special about it. It is common enough for it to be around us more than we ever think of too.

In astrology, there are major energy shifts in a year and they are Equinoxes, Summer and Winter Solstices. Hope that we all can use the energy effectively coming into the great new year.

Around the days, a lot of people experience their energy cycles turning. Especially in my clients, they may experience energy shifts in a transformational level a caterpillar to a butterfly because they are here with me to transform anyway.

In the sense, people get tired, experiencing longer sleeping hours or sleeplessness or another signs from the bodies.

I heard that there are more crimes in full moon so moon phases should effect our moods and physiological rhythms too.

Surprisingly the last full moon, the last in this year and in this decade came on 12/12 at 12:12am in New York.

People around me including my clients told me that they experienced something extra ordinary and I saw 12:12 all the time like angel numbers.

The full moon was the last in this year and also the last in this decade and full moon means ending so it really means the last of everything in the sense.

Adding to it, the new moon of Capricorn is coming with a solar eclipse so the energy shifts could be significant. We really want to use the amazing energy for our good in this time.

In this occasion, recommended meditation, “Danshari”, exercise, healthy diet and relax. Then we are going to have smooth energy shifts in this amazing opportunity.

I mentioned about “Manifestation” in the past too. Making your own desires happen to you, obtaining what we want, those are always popular topics around us.

It is said that being positive and believing in getting what we want. Is it true?

I have written about “Manifestation” before and this is my latest version of it in this writing. I learn everyday in my personal growth through my personal life, and sessions with my clients. As same as others in this world, I am in growing process too.

Maybe it is going to be updated in the future though this is my truth now about “Manifestation”.

The more you wish for something, the more the fact that you don’t have it might be emphasized. You want it because you don’t have it now, simple.

For example, missing someone in a terrible way may emphasize that you are not seeing the person. More to say, If you fear that you will never see the person again, the fear could be manifested.

Fear and anxiety are very strong feelings in our mind. If they are strong, they would be in your subconscious. Subconscious is strong as we could be using up to 95% of our brain instead of around 5% in our conscious. Our brain operation speed would be 1,000,000 times faster in subconscious than our conscious level.

Fear and anxiety are strong, that means that the feelings are in your subconscious mind. Then fear and anxiety are in your subconscious daily basis so it is more likely for them to manifest.

That is why a lot of people suggest that we should let go of our fear and anxiety.

Instead, we should hold onto the ideas of good images or feelings, such as feeling of joy to see someone you love, excitements and all that.

It is difficult to think of anything positive all the time. It is natural for us as a human to worry. What if I can’t see him/her ever again or what if they wouldn’t like me any more, or what if this precious relationship doesn’t work.

Yes, that is the way. Fear and anxiety are so common in us.

Why common? Because it is a defense mechanism that we innately got. We avoid emotional and physical pains.

Defense mechanism is protecting us from harm and pains. We have defense so strong so we don’t want to eat the food ever again if we got food poisoning with it once.

In the same function, we may not want to fall in love ever again if someone we love cheats on us. It is a defense mechanism too.

Each one of us is here to carry and pass on our DNA to our next generations. To do so, death or harm should be the worst thing ever happen to us.

That is why we have fear. We are afraid of big dogs, or heights, or food to make you sick. Those fears are to protect us from any harm and they are necessary system for us after all.

Our mind functions the same. When we get hurt emotionally, we would feel timid to fall in love or trust someone in relationships.

It is very natural tendency. Younger people tend to be more positive because they have less repeated pains and hurts than older people. When we get older, our defense gets stronger with the reason.

Of course, we live longer, we have more experience in good and bad. Unfortunately we tend to remember pain and negative experiences much better because of our defense mechanism.

Now we understand our tendency and instincts. However I must say that more we are afraid of being hurt or failure or risk, the more we don’t take any risk in our lives.

In the result, I must say that we have less chance to be succeeded when we don’t take risk.

In relationships or business, of course, we are going to be successful because we take risk.

And I must mention that challenging and taking risk are actually against our nature based on the defense mechanism working for us. In the sense, challenging attitude and keep it high in our lives is actually challenging against our nature and instinct too.

We are talking about “Laws of the Universe” too. Yes, the more you think “no never again, I don’t want to get hurt again.”, the more chance you could get it manifested in your life again.

I know that I broke a bad news but it is true…. Fear is lingering in your mind repeatedly all day long and it is subconscious. It got great chance to be manifested when you have such strong thoughts long time, yes?

Furthermore, there is one more reason why it will manifest when we strongly feel like we don’t want to be hurt again.

The more we want to avoid the hurt, the more we are sending a sign to the universe that we haven’t overcome the hurt, yes?

We wouldn’t have to desperately avoid the harm when we have overcome the pain.

For example, in a relationship, you get anxious when your love interest doesn’t send you a text often enough. In the case, getting over the anxiety is an assignment for you from the universe.

When you are done well with your assignment, you likely would forget about it. Yes, of course. When you overcome, you wouldn’t think about it so much in the way when you failed.

Then the universe would likely give you another assignment in the next stage and level.

However when you haven’t overcome the anxiety, you still feel pretty lonely on your own, the universe has to give you another chance and assignment to you to overcome the difficult feelings.

That is the reason why “not again, I don’t want to feel the pain.” could be repeated for you again and again.