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Red string and psychology


In Asian countries, fall is a season of the moon. People celebrate a particular moon phase such as a full moon in this season.

As we know, the phase of the moon affect us such as higher crime rates at full moon or babies normally come when high tides.

Highest tide comes around full moon and also new moon that I heard. It is not surprising that we have some changes in our mind set or feelings according to moon phase and also major energy shifts happen around then.

I am sensing major energy shift in this September too so as amongst clients, there are some going through some changes. They feel more capable than before. I believe that energy shift affects our lives in many levels.

I feel like my clients are having new experiences and it gets them outside of their own comfort zone to go to next level. I feel wonderful with them too.

New experience means here as you got cleared with one stage and going to the next stage like in a video game.

Some of my clients came to me, got stable and could manage everyday life much better. They get to believe in their potential, get promoted or get hopeful with their future.

However one day, they get a love interest in their lives and their lives get stirred. There may be effects that they lose their faith in them or their future because of this stir.

The situation may look like a withdrawal or backing off. However they got this kind of challenge, getting a boy/girlfriend because they got stable enough with their own at the first place.

That is why it is still a progress though the new stage could shake my clients bad enough and feel them negatively sometimes.

Again, my clients came to me and their emotions and life get improved such as they became to smile much more than before, believe in their positive aspects or future. They do great at work and one day, they get a boy/girlfriend.

In my point of view, the partner came to my clients because my clients were doing well enough.

They were well enough so that is why they could get engaged with their love interests and move onto having a new relationship. It is a happy and positive progress but it sometimes feels my clients shaky.

Because they were stable before the partner and their life changed with the new partner. All those anxiety and fear possibly to lose someone important in their life gets stirred up in this situation.

It may feel like old days came back with developed anxiety and fear.

Then they may quickly come to a conclusion to stop contacting the partner. Because they just feel scared to lose the new love.

In psychology, it is very much understandable situation here. Having a partner reminds them how they felt in the past when they lost their partner in a break-up. It was surely painful that they can remember.

It is a defense mechanism that we have in us that we never want to experience the pain ever again.

Yes. And also behind this psychology, there is an expectation that this relationship wouldn’t go well. Of course. If there wasn’t the expectation, there shouldn’t be thoughts of having the same pain again.

Defense mechanism always protects us from any types of harm that we can have in our lives. Although most of times, it prevents us to be a positive person for sure.

You may notice it already that this negative expectation came from our defense mechanism is the origin of negative domino effects in our decision making.

There is another aspect that sooner we decide that the relationship doesn’t work, the less risk we have with the possible pain.

In the sense, we have no problem to decide on quit as soon as possible because it sounds like a very reasonable motivation.

I talked about positive and negative motivation in my column the other day. How wonderful if all of our motivation is based on positive ones.

In conclusion, I can say that we have no problem to jump into a new relationship if we didn’t have a strong defense mechanism kicked in.

Defense mechanism is one of our instincts though we have another even deeper type of instinct of wanting a partner to live with in our lives.

Not only humans but also all the animals have the instinct for the purpose of reproduction too.

I never got a chance to know about other animals though I know that we, humans have some belief of connections, attractions, fate or even red strings.

For example, some kind of co-incidental encounter with someone who you love suddenly in the street or going back to a same person repeatedly in your life.

Or there are some people who you never feel like meeting the first time or undeniable attractions and chemistry in-between you and the person.

We can’t deny all those feelings of ours around romantic relationships, can we?

Science tried to figure out the mysterious attraction in the past though it really couldn’t so it completely. However we surely know that there is some undeniable connections in this world.

Going back to my clients, I understand when my clients are in love. All those sparkles around them like sunshines and rainbows. That is the energy that they got with being in love.

Energy is vibrations come from our 40 trillion micro cells in each one of us. Vibrations of each cell in us is a proof of life, of course. The proof of life, the vibrations that we are releasing from our body are called energy.

That is why it is not strange at all if we could detect our energy/vibrations each other in our daily life.

As an energy reader of myself, the energy of love moves me to cry for joy. Their glow and shine are definitely high vibrations/energy, I say.

Yes, love raises your vibrations much higher as you feel like in heaven in being in love. If you are a woman, your skin is smooth, eyes got excess water, movements are absolutely elegant when you are in love. The beauty is remarkable and breath taking too.

Scientifically speaking, we have certain types of hormones in us when we are in love and it makes us look better, right?

What is attraction anyway? We can get attracted each other like magnets for some reasons that we don’t know in science.

Something inside us gives us certain type of messages and feelings to go to a certain person amongst of all in this world.

How amazing attraction is! It is something in us that we can’t see or physically touch. It must be like feelings, signs, meant to be, or fate or feels right or even instinct.

The something inside us resides probably deeper than our conscious level. Even deeper than “Unconscious” that Dr. Freud mentioned long time ago. It might be like “energy” or “spirit” or “soul”.

Lately science can detect micro level weight of “energy” or “spirit”. There is slight difference in the weight of a person before their death and after their death. This proved in a way, existence of “energy” or “spirit”.

Whatever it is called “energy”, “life”, “spirit” or “soul” must have some information about this connections and fate that we feel around our relationships with others, especially romantic partner.

Observing my clients in love, I see absolute desire and will to pursue the counterpart and feels me like it is undeniable and unstoppable power in them.

Only the obstacle is their negativity came from their pain and negative experience that they had in the past as a human. This negative force interferes their pursuit of happiness and the relationship.

In other words, if we could listen and move upon our instinctive voice in us around our romance, we wouldn’t be suffering from dilemma in-between our free will to pursue our destined love and negative energy came from our own past.

After all, these negative forces/feelings/energy came from our own past negative experience are here with us and for us in order to overcome those and they are simply called “karma”.

I believe that the meaning of our life is to live based upon our spirit/energy/soul/instinct feels like.

If you say that it is the best for us to truly connect to our “soulmate” or person who got special connection with you, we should surely make our moves based upon our own voice from our soul.

Whoever we feel like to be together as our soul calls for. Only the interference here for us is the karma, which is negative feelings/energy caused by past events.

Whatever the negative feelings/energy you have from the past, hypnotherapy is the best to solve the issue. If the inner voice from your soul comes from deepest level of yours, it should be around “subconscious” for sure.

I believe that tapping into your own subconscious is the way to listen to your own voice from your soul. Subconscious is very similar to hypnotized state and it feels like deepest meditation. Nothing like artificial or dramatic at all.

It is your own natural state and I can simply induce you to make your own natural state happen to you in the session.

I’m looking forward to seeing you soon in person!

Have a wonderful day!

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