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When you feel like having less than others


It’s been a few days I could not only smell the fall but also I could hear the steps of the winter in New York City.

Feels like time flies, that is why I’m reminded that I want to live my life meaningfully everyday. How about you?

I wrote about life purpose and mission in the last column. I got some reaction from people and got chance to talk about it in sessions with my clients. I want to write about something I thought of in the week.

As I mentioned about life purpose, mission or meanings. Have you ever thought of those in your life?

Amongst my clients, there are some who are looking for life purpose or mission, or some completely lost the meanings of why they are here in this world.

How about you? Have you been feeling fulfilled or achieved in your life?

If so, congratulations! I say that it is good for you from bottom of my heart.

I said congratulations from bottom of my heart. However some people can’t say it in the way. It’s called jealousy and it is so tricky and harmful negative feeling.

First of all, jealousy never brings anything good or positive to anyone in this world including the person who got jealous. When you are jealous, your jealousy can’t damage a person who got success or happiness made you jealous.

Yes, jealousy wouldn’t damage the person who you got jealous of. The negative feeling that you got in you wouldn’t damage the other.

In fact, your own negative feelings would damage yourself. Longer you hold the feeling, the worse you would be harmed and it would keep you away from your own happiness.

Jealousy comes from the concept that someone else have something or someone you want, or something and someone everyone wants in this world more than you do.

It came from the concept that someone else got something a lot so you have less because of it. Or you decide that the person doesn’t deserve whatever the good thing or person they have.

It is about why the kind of person got the kind of good thing or person. And you can get or have less because other person got so much.

You can’t decide who deserves what or who and also it is an illusion that you have less because someone else got so much.

This world is not a round pie. A pie like someone else got a larger piece then others would get less.

Yes, this world is not a pie at all. A pie is like with limited resources without abundance. It is not true that some people got more than you then your share would be smaller.

Isn’t it a fact? It is truly possible when everyone got a lot or full of happiness, and others would still get a lot of whatever and full of happiness too.

It might be about happiness or whatever the things and those value and concept, all the resources are limited are humans created long time ago.

The universe doesn’t have concept of quantity or limitations so there is no less or more or even limited resources. Its belief is abundance of its own.

While the universe has absolute concept of abundance, humans created for some purposes or practicality, values and concept of rules, standards, previledge including money and happiness over long time of periods.

Humans feel like